So here we are again at the start of a new year, often associated with having a fresh start, a clean slate, and endless opportunities. And perhaps because of the things, we all have been programmed to make a list of resolutions that we promise to follow throughout the whole year. But we all know the vicious cycle of these New Year’s resolutions - you do great at keeping it up for a few days or weeks (if you’re lucky), then it comes to a point where you start slacking off, and eventually give up on them.
Here are some reasons why we are so bad at following through these resolutions and what you should be doing instead:
1. Focus, Focus, and Focus
While wanting to achieve a lot of goals throughout the year isn’t a problem, setting too many of them all at once is a setup for failure. So instead of listing down everything you want to change in your life, try and select one or just several so that you could really focus on them. In this way, you could devote more time and energy to make them real.
Like every new experience, most people are excited about doing something new to better themselves. But because they don’t realize that the path to a better version of themselves is usually a long and arduous one, they give up in the middle of the journey. Why? This is because most people expect the change they want to come immediately and easily give up when they don’t get it.
So in order to really follow through and keep committing to your goal, it’s better to take it slow and steady rather than crash and burn in the middle of your journey. Remember, this isn’t a contest between you and others.
3. Do Things in Increments
Any kind of change will involve some struggle at the beginning. One of the reasons why most people fail at keeping their resolutions is that they always want to do the big changes right away. Instead of wanting to do something grand immediately, why not do small things in a incremental manner? This allows you to gradually adjust to smaller changes and will help you reach your goal eventually. So for example, if you’re planning to get fit this year, instead of getting a gym membership right away, start by doing a few sets of push ups every day to help prepare you physically and psychologically for the next steps.
4. Enjoy and Embrace the Journey
Aside from recognizing that this journey to a better version of yourself will be quite long and will involve some difficult challenges, it is important that you also embrace the journey. Appreciate every little step you take toward that change and keep track of your progress while you’re at it. You’ll be quite surprised at how far you could go in a span of weeks or months.